Hi all,

Yes, I agree, this person should persona non grata pending mediation. 

Perry is an olderish white guy musician who comes around sometimes, much of the time seriously drunk it would appear. Being drunk seems to clearly impair his judgement and his actions become invasive to others in the ways Ryan describes.

My history with him is only the following. I first talked to him a while ago asking him to turn down his electric guitar in the ballroom while a large meeting was taking place in La Commune - he complied. I noticed he really did reek of alcohol. I asked if he volunteered with any collective, he said FNB - but he didn't know where the kitchen was, or that there was even a basement, which rang alarm bells for me (ie, it was probably a fib.) I later followed up with Helen and Joe and they said they had never heard of him, and that sometimes people 'say' theyre in FNB but aren't really.. 

Anyhow, Perry left the ballroom and wandered upstairs by the kitchen above La Commune, now playing the mandolin - 'quietly', yes - but alas still distracting to those in the large meeting below, and I again asked if he could play music in the basement or another room in the building until the meeting as finished - he complied, but seemed pretty out of it and not understanding why (drunk).

I later found out that while upstairs he was 'peeking' into the Disco Room on a dance rehearsal that made those inside feel uncomfortable and Sarah sent an email out to that effect. Next time I saw him, I re-introduced myself, took him up to the dance room and let him know that they require privacy and to not do that. He said he had something of one the dancers inside and was trying to return it to her.. I did not verify whether this was true or not, but since the dancers did not seem to know him, it seems doubtful. 

Then, one day after that, he was walking into the building and I admittedly gave him a bit of a 'side-eye' on the way in because I wasn't sure if he was wasted or what. He himself came up to me and said, "why'd you give me that look?", and I said, it appears you come into the building drunk, and we can't have drunk people in here - you aren't known to our community, and I don't know what you will do in that state. I said if you want to get drunk, try not to come here. To his credit he admitted being drunk the aforementioned day, agreed it was unacceptable, and said that wasn't going to happen again. 

But, since it has happened again, to my mind that is grounds to ban him pending mediation that he will have to arrange. 

Does anyone know him, or have his email? 

Best,
David

On Tue, Feb 3, 2015 at 2:20 PM, Ryan <yandoryn@gmail.com> wrote:
fwding this to sudo and cdc as well


---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Ryan <yandoryn@gmail.com>
Date: Tue, Feb 3, 2015 at 1:59 PM
Subject: Proposed Safe Space Ban: Perry
To: "discuss@lists.omnicommons.org" <discuss@lists.omnicommons.org>, David Keenan <dkeenan44@gmail.com>


Perry, who as far as I know is not affiliated with any collective in the space, was at the Omni until late last night. He was heavily inebriated and reeked of alcohol.

In attempting to talk with me, he got incredibly touchy-feely and further invaded my space, getting so close that I could feel his breath on my skin. I informed him loudly that touch needs to be consensual in the space and that he should ask me before touching me. I told him that the safe space policy is next to the front door and that he should read it. I managed to get away from him, but he followed me outside.

Ribre (sp?) was outside with her guitar and he sat down next to her, invaded her space, and tried to strike up a seemingly very uncomfortable conversation. She told him that whatever he was talking about was something that he'd have to deal with on his own, not with her, and that she cannot deal with drunk men, and that they make her unsafe. Instead of ceasing the conversation, he got closer and tried to tell her that they needed to continue it.

He continued in this vein for a while longer, until I loudly informed him that the conversation was not consensual and he needed to stop. He started to argue with me, however RAYC was able to defuse Perry and lead him away from the interaction.

I spoke to Kwe and Juul before they left, to make sure I had backup if I needed to ask Perry to leave the building. Eventually, I was the only member left in the building, so I asked RAYC to shut down the building for me, and that I was only comfortable vouching for him and Nicholas. RAYC got Perry to leave.

I spoke with David Keenan this morning, explaining the situation, and DK said that he has spoken to Perry in the past about his behaviour, specifically his behaviour when under the influence of alcohol. I will let DK speak more to that.

Is anyone aware of a collective that Perry is involved with? In my conversation with DK, he said that when he spoke to Perry he said he was with FNB, but was probably lying, as he didn't even know where the kitchen was. Regardless, I ask that Perry be banned from the Omni, pending mediation, as his actions clearly violate our safe space policy and he refused to take action to alter his behaviour.


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