Instead of Banning Steven for a set amount of time, I feel the following compromise is admirable, and if no progress is made from this, then he be asked to leave the space:
1. Steven's key access be revoked for one month from the space, and only granted access back, after the community and Steven, has come together to review progress, and positive changes, in the problematic behavior patterns that have been detrimental to the space. Only then if everyone is in agreement, then card access will be granted again.
2. Steven is only allow into the space if he is chaperoned by a mentor / voucher / member / liaison, who is present while he is in the space (a person would also be a mediary between him and myself)
3. That there is active mediation happening (not rushed), through out the month with myself, and also with others whom have been sick and disrupted by his behavior, for whatever reason i.e.use of the space (specifically using this space as his house, and being territorial about it, and leaving messes). With coordination from the mediation-stewart and mediator.
The Member-Mentor-Voucher-Liaison would vouch for Steven, will partly be held accountable for any negative conduct, and also be able to work with him directly to catch small things that maybe problematic.
- Exhibits a reasonable lack of self control
- Rudeness (carrying on as if he owns Sudoroom, is an A-hole to anyone that tries to give constructive, positive feedback, on usage or behavior of the space).
- Violate the SAFE SPACE POLICY
- Be aggressive or hostile toward anybody (repetitious I know)
- Dissisruptive yelling and/or outbursts (I will even ask another person to ask him to leave if he has disruptive outbursts (as two meetings were disrupted because of them.
- Verbal aggression anybody (and anything beyond that)
- Not claiming a specific work area/space as his own (camping out/being hostile, or territorial about others working there)
- Not making a mess, - Not storing person items (unless they are projects-NO PERSONAL STORAGE)
- I feel a month would be a sufficient for him to develop healthier habits for a more productive space overall.
We all come from different backgrounds, and some communication styles or lack therefore of sometimes need updating, and addressing.
Problematic people do come to the Omnis (for whatever reason(s). As a community it is up to us to be able to come together, put some community investment together, to try to help/guide/coach/mentor that person to what is acceptable (not net/negative), behaviour. And only then, only after some community investment, has been put forth, we can clearly see if a person will continue on as a disruption to the community, shall we ask that person to definitely leave the space as (it would be net-negative).
The only shelter the Omni-commons is, is a shelter for the community to be able to be a community. Not a place to shelter an individual's community destructive behaviours. I think all of this as clearly as follows: If a person's behaviors are having a tangible, net-negative impact on the community (could be limited to one space), then they need to be addressed (within reason). If that person does not have the capacity to change for the overall health of the community, then that person must leave.
As stated in the beginning I would only feel comfortable with Steven in the community ONLY he agreed to these requests, as I feel that a month of additional guidance would help catalyst healthier behavior patterns, and the community (including Steven) would coexist more seamlessly together.
The verbal assault altercation and clearly ignoring my requests all day to not speak to me, is definitely an extreme, and in a lot of places he would have been kicked out no questions asked!!! But I feel that he has the ability to grow past this. As the victim of such abuse, I feel the typed above would suffice, even though I am still uneasy about the situation.
As in the famous words of are neighboring hackerspace "Be excellent to each other dudes." They just left out "And work on excellence toward each other." (If there is a lack therefore of).
This is not to attack him, but to help coach new growth and ways, so that all of what we are going through doesn't arise again. To me this is not a community issue. It is a community including Steven issue.
Thanks for reading, and sorry if this is longer than a dissertation...
I will discuss with the Mediator and Mediatior. Stewart