All, I hope my intrusion is a helpful one. I'm viewing this from pretty far away.

I can easily imagine myself responding in the way Robb describes, without any racist intent. I can easily imagine it being legitimately interpreted as racist. I think the situation Robb describes is one in which balancing the needs for friendliness, security, and respect for oneself and others in the building would be *difficult*, and it's easy to err in any number of ways without ill intent. So I don't think any of you arguing about it necessarily have different values or even desire different outcomes.

I don't think that an email list discussion is going to lead to an outcome either/any of you want.

There was some mention of mediation, and I think that kind of structure could be helpful, if there's somebody willing to mediate. Is it possible to come up with a simple set of protocols to follow when somebody rings the bell, but can't demonstrate a reason they should be admitted?

Maybe having instructions readily available would help people in Robb's position respond in a way that everybody could appreciate. I sincerely doubt he wanted to do otherwise, even if his actions came off as hostile and lead to undesirable results.

-Pete

(missing Sudo Room and the Omni and wishing you all well)

@ Niki,
i admit i got annoyed by the singular long ring of the door bell but
i think i'll take anti-oppression advice from someone other than the one
who originally started the bad blood with Almaz by refusing to allow her to
be an equal in your previous cafe enterprise

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