10:08 pm
I'm jumping in here by responding and making the assumption that we have started sex-positive discussions for the upcoming bike smut event ?
By breaking a mold and creating a new cultural aptitude that addresses sexuality in any conscious way one must first and foremost be consistent with an expansive and inclusive message. One that is revolutionary enough not to fall into its own trappings of superiority or dogma around ideas that we must not do certain things because they may misconstrue us in a negative light as individuals and shine us in a stark and naked light.
Sexuality is more than the form (aesthetic) coopted, commercialized, and commodified to sell us subconsciously the image of beauty. Which after all is the essence of our self expression encompassing all aspects sexual.
We just don't need to hype it or sell it.
Referring here to boys/men searching for new avenues to draw attention to themselves through a newly acculturated legitimacy of what is acceptable sexual 'play'.
Just looking at fundamentals to see the trends that may or may not suit well enough to blossom into a true form or social construct that become useful and has longevity.
However, looking for new unconventional ways to express our sexuality is always a welcome chance for creativity and collaboration.
Memes come and go, but true ones evolve alongside the dynamics that helped to create them as an outgrowth in the first place.
Overthinking can become inhibitory, and I've heard some of the best ideas at a bar over alcoholic drinks while listening to people just let the honesty of their intentions flow more fluidly than the liquour :)
Games. Yes , games where we begin to ask questions about the structure and nature of the roles performed and the results(besides fun!) to be elicited out of the human bonding process I see as a great potentiator for reclaiming the lost playfulness required for true sexual expression.
I've witnessed it being transferred into focused sports activities that divide the sexes into competitive forms of struggle and domination.
Domination being some very major aspects of the "chase" a role in which a suitor pursues a goal to achieve a result in the "game".
I digress.
Discussion is alright. However from my experiences, once i go too deep in asking questions that really engage people to confront their roles and relationships to one another in this arena, people get a bit serous and become intimidated.
So the next step (logically ) is to establish boundaries of comfort for all players involved.
Who's bringing feathers to tickle people with ?
or will this event be a more visual removal of pornographic experience followed by a discussion?
As for new ways to break the mold to celebrate the sexuality / attractiveness of males. we have to brave new considerations beyond women's need to femminize and enfold men into their own sexualized proclivities projected.
I welcome as much inquisitive (not hostile )feedback as this forum allows for and wish to see further discussion around these topics.
Sincerely,
Troy Massey