I am still shaken, but after some reflection I want to say this:
I've felt that Ian was harassing, abusing, gaslighting and boundary pushing people at omni for a long time, but was reluctant to say or do anything about it because I didn't feel like it would be taken seriously. Then last night he yelled some absolutely horrible violent and sexualized threats, making the entire building very unsafe.
In his few months at omni, Trevor never witnessed any safe space bans happen, but DID witness attempts to use the safe space policy end in failure. From his perspective, it was reasonable to believe that nobody at omni actually took safe space seriously, the policy was a toothless joke, and the only way to address the intense levels of harm coming from Ian was to slap him in the face.
Honestly, Trevor made the wrong decision to do this, but his heart was in the right place. Any restorative justice process needs to show great compassion.
After thinking it over, I want to rescind my call for a safe space ban on Trevor. I made a rash call in the heat of the moment. I think our community failed him, and many others, by allowing Ian to remain for so long. I think a ban on Trevor would be disproportionate and needlessly punitive. I encourage the community to figure out a way to welcome him back asap.
This is bigger than me and I'm not the boss of omni. I don't think it should be my decision. But I just wanted to say how I'm feeling now.