[sudo-discuss] Fwd: [nightlife-612] Warning to ladies from another Meetup

Tue Oct 29 12:52:50 PDT 2013

I wanted to forward this email I received from a group I belong to on
Meetup.com to Sudoers. An ALERT and Reminder. Apparently there seems to be
a man attending meetups in the bay area who is being less than gentleman
like with a few ladies.

Check it out-

---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Rick <info at meetup.com>
Date: Tue, Oct 29, 2013 at 10:32 AM
Subject: [nightlife-612] Warning to ladies from another Meetup
To: nightlife-612-announce at meetup.com

Hi All,

Some of you may have already received this warning from one of Tom's many
SF meet-ups. I got three. I am resending it out to you because even though
we are not a single's group, everyone should be mindful of their security
online. I have removed a Rahul from the group who had an cartoon for a pic
and either never attended or or never RSVPed. One remains but with a
different member ID than the one in question.

Tom has a few very good recommendations that you should consider. I would
also recommend not using your complete first and last name on the site. I
have never required this. Ladies, please be careful of anyone who comes on
a little too aggressive. Consider asking for a business card instead of
giving out your contact information. Post event outings for dinner or what
not are best in groups with people you have established friendships with
coming along. Use good judgement and be safe.

Let's all just try to have some fun without the ick.

Cheers,

Rick

Oakland Happy Hour Organizer

 * *

*Please see email from Tom below:*

 For years I've been getting reports from women that an SF Bay Area
meetupmember has been up to various creepy behavior including
stalking,
harassment, inappropriate touching, and even him being suspected of
breaking someone's front door lock at a house party.

I've long ago kicked him out of my groups and reported him to meetup. In
fact I know he's been reported to meetup at least a few times and they've
done nothing because he's careful to wait until he get's someone's personal
email or phone number before he starts getting creepy.

This character's name is Rahul. There are several Rahul's in meetup so be
sure you know which one I'm talking about. Here is his main meetup profile
http://www.meetup.com/members/11529766/ He doesn't post pictures of himself
so here's another profile cartoon he commonly uses
http://www.meetup.com/walking-in-SF/members/11529766/ and here is an email
address that he's used in the past bffrahul at gmail.com

If you have not had an issue with this person yet the best advice I can
give you is this:

1) If he email's you do not reply

1) Do not give him any personal information  i.e., email address, phone
number, address

If anyone can find me a picture of this guy in any meetup please send me a
link to it.

*If you have already had a run in with this guy please read on. *

Thanks to the efforts of Gareth, another organizer that many of you know,
we have the ear of the meetup CEO and their safety lead and they are
interested in hearing your story. Even if your run in with Rahul was some
time ago, even if you've already reported him to meetup, please follow the
instructions in the email and report your story.

Thanks

Tom

*Hi Tom,*

*Thank you for contacting us about this.  I'm Liz, and your message has
been escalated to my attention. Meetup takes reports such as this, and any
possible violation of our Terms of Service, very seriously. *

*We would like to conduct a limited inquiry into this situation. I
understand that you've heard these stories second-hand, so it may be
difficult for you to provide us with the additional information, but if
there's anything further you can tell us in connection with your concerns,
that will help us look into this further. Additionally, if you know of any
members who have had first-hand experience with Rahul, please have them
write to me directly at lizd at meetup.com. *

*The sort of information that will help us look into this further is:*

*• a detailed description of the situation*
*• links to pages where the content at issue is appearing on the site*
*• any relevant emails or content you may have received through the site*
*• anything you received outside of the Meetup platform that would be
relevant to our inquiry*
*• any other information you think may be helpful, such as a relevant
police report or similar documentation*

*We want to conduct as thorough an inquiry into this situation as possible,
and we appreciate your help with this. Having said that, please note that
Meetup is unable to moderate member behavior offsite, so in addition to
reporting this to us, it is very important that all illegal activity be
reported to the local authorities as well. *

*Thanks again for your help with this. We'll look forward to your reply. *
* Sincerely, *

* Liz Dickey *
* Trust and Safety Lead *
* Meetup HQ*

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