[sudo-discuss] johnny ban / process?

[robb]

johnny has already been informed of his being asked to leave & should
contact the mediation <https://omnicommons.org/lists/listinfo/mediation>
list, which is *not* a publicly archived list, if he wishes to do so.


On Wed, Jul 20, 2016 at 4:28 PM, Sera Sigma <sera.sigma at gmail.com> wrote:

> Email lists are terrible for resolving anything. Much of the conversation
> had on this thread was already covered in person yesterday, so Johnny's
> accusation that the individuals present at last week's sudo meeting haven't
> "even spoke up" is false.
>
> Some facts:
> * This is not a housing conflict, this is an alleged assault/abuse
> incident.
> * There is a restraining order against Johnny obtained by Leslie.
> * When faced with being served with that order, Johnny fled the scene
> (yesterday at sudo).
> * Previous mediation for a different incident failed in the eyes of at
> least one party.
> * Legal recourse was sought by both parties: Johnny evicted Leslie, Leslie
> obtained a restraining order against Johnny. As with many conflicts, these
> legal actions appear to be regarding different issues.
>
> Undeniable power dynamics that affect the situation:
> * Johnny identifies as male, Leslie as female
> * Johnny was the landlord, Leslie the tenant
>
> Current status:
> * Leslie has agreed to mediation.
> * Johnny agreed to mediation in person yesterday to me, but has
> subsequently backed out of this agreement.
>
> As we are having a sudo get together tonight, I propose we discuss this
> in person. Sudo members who think it is important to have a space that is
> both just and safe for all, drop by and we can pursue this further.
>
> Johnny, I prefer real human interaction to process, which why I thought we
> had made some progress yesterday (before you fled anyway). Based on the
> content of your last email, and in particular your line "may the OMNI
> become the ONLY space she feels safe", I ask that you not be present
> tonight.
>
> I do hope that you change your mind and agree to mediation. I would
> volunteer if necessary. I genuinely empathize with your feeling of being
> oppressed by legal and other systems. This situation obviously has multiple
> facets and we are all faced with the human condition of bringing our past
> pain to every new interaction. I wish you the luck to find your best
> possible self.
>
> -Sigma
>
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