[sudo-discuss] Fwd: Psi Vesely asked to leave omni

[Lesley Bell]

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From: Squeesh <squeesh at protonmail.com>
Date: Sun, Dec 8, 2019 at 7:41 PM
Subject: intimate partner violence
To: zvezdalune at gmail.com <zvezdalune at gmail.com>


So this is what happened:  In the late winter/early spring of 2017, Psi
Vesely was angry because I wanted to sleep instead of have sex. After
saying no at least three times, I fell asleep, then woke up from REM sleep
because I could not breathe, and discovered that I could not breathe
because Psi had their hands wrapped around my neck.

For a while, they claimed not to remember, then I got an apology. Very
recently, however (winter 2019) they claimed to remember me being awake
during the incident. They claimed not to remember me saying "no," or "I am
falling asleep now," but they do have some recollection of thinking that
choking me "might turn [me] on again." Calling them in by myself has not
been working (they get angry, gaslight, and act insulted), and at this
point it causes me a considerable amount of anxiety. They claim I am the
only person this has happened with, but I am not sure at this point that I
believe that, for reasons beyond just this one conversation. At least for a
little while, I would prefer not to see them at the omni, and am also
calling on other community members who know and care about Psi to maybe put
in some (hopefully) more effective emotional labor if they feel so
inclined. I have known them a long time, and it has been complicated. I
hope they will listen to someone other that me.


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