[sudo-discuss] johnny ban / process?

[Lesley Bell]

Jake,

Johnny has been harassing me. He broke into my room last month and then
assaulted me later the same day. I've blocked his ability to communicate
with me. I've also had a temp restraining order granted against him.

I wondered if I should email the listserv, but felt afraid. I did not want
to deal with this being so public, so soon. I wanted to focus on other
projects that made me feel strong again instead. I didn't realize that was
expected.

No one deserves get "kicked out [evicted]" over someone else's "sexual
tension." No one deserves to be regularly called a "slut, bitch, rutt
bitch, ho, whore, and tease." No one deserves to be violently touched in
any way when they do not consent to it.





On Tue, Jul 19, 2016, 10:31 PM Jake <jake at spaz.org> wrote:

> apparently at the meeting last week, Johnny was banned for Safe-Space
> reasons, but nobody informed him about this.
>
> Earlier tonight, he asked if I would be at sudoroom tonight and i said
> yes, and so he brought his project to work on, but he was stopped at the
> door by someone who knew about the ban.  He asked for me and I spent the
> next hour trying to sort through the mediation process and the
> complexities of this particular situation.
>
> In the future, when people are banned at a meeting it's important that
> someone makes an effort to contact someone who is being banned to let them
> know, and to inform them of how to participate in the mediation process.
> To do otherwise discredits our important conflict resolution process and
> disregards the basic rights of the accused.  In this case Johnny can be
> easily reached by email, and is included in this message.
>
> Johnny expressed a desire to participate in mediation as soon as possible,
> since he is banned from the space until its conclusion.  He is also
> dealing with eviction from his home right now so this is frustrating for
> him, especially since he only found out about it after arriving at Omni to
> work on a project.
>
> is anyone stepping up to be a conflict steward and/or neutral mediator?
>
> thanks
> -jake
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