[sudo-discuss] Incident with Steeve of Sudoroom.

Mon Mar 12 14:53:51 PDT 2018

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On Mon, Mar 12, 2018 at 11:36 AM, Robert Chu <robert.chu01 at gmail.com> wrote:

> Also if people think I am being to dramatic when I state "bullying", here
> is an excerpt from the Bullying page of Wikipedia
>
> "Bullying can be defined in many different ways. The United Kingdom of
> Great Britain and Northern Ireland
> <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_Kingdom> has no legal definition of
> bullying,[6] <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying#cite_note-6> while
> some states in the United States
> <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States> have laws against it.[7]
> <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying#cite_note-7> Bullying is divided
> into four basic types of abuse – emotional
> <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_abuse> (sometimes called
> relational), verbal <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Verbal_abuse>, physical
> <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_abuse>, and cyber.[8]
> <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying#cite_note-8> It typically
> involves subtle methods of coercion, such as intimidation.
> - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying
>
> HIs actions reflected emotional abuse and verbal abuse, used to try to
> intimidate me.
>
> I also think it is bullying because he thought I might be to scared or
> (dominated over) to do something about it, either that or I am not entirely
> sure if he is aware of his own actions.
>
> I stand against bullying, stand up for people being bullied, and choose
> not to be a victim of bullying.
>
> I don't have any friends or associates in my life that are bullies, or
> treat me in a disrespectful way.  Which is why I really don't even feel
> comfortable mediating this with him at the current time.
>
>
> Thank you for reading
> Rayc
>
>
> Robert Albert Young Chu
> "Radiant Ambition Yields Change."
> Call or Text :415-724-0425 <(415)%20724-0425>
> Email: robert.chu01 at gmail.com
>
> On Mon, Mar 12, 2018 at 11:28 AM, Robert Chu <robert.chu01 at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
>> Hello Robb, thank you for your volunteering to do so. After reflecting
>> off of this for three days. I am still a bit shaken over the incident, and
>> don't think I even wish to mediate currently, my hands were truly shaking
>> for about two hours after his barrage of verbal assaults toward me. I don't
>> really even feel comfortable talking through a mediator with him as well at
>> the current time.
>>
>> He tried bullying me to force me to feel sorry for him, for something in
>> which I clearly had done no wrong. He got pissed that I moved "his table",
>> because it had his laptop bag attached to it. "THERE IS NO PERSONAL STORAGE
>> AT SUDOROOM", if he didn't violate this, then this would not have
>> transpired."
>>
>> Then I told him how I felt, not to talk to me and was insulted.
>> (assertion of dominance, again).
>>
>> IMHO through his actions, he straight up bullied me and I defended myself
>> by contacting another Sudoroom member for support and advice on the matter
>> (who lucky enough was able to pick up during working business hours). I
>> felt like I was being whipped mentally everytime he would yell over me
>> yelling "F**K You" multiple times." And lying about owning a table.
>>
>> I don't tolerate people like that and don't engage with them at all.
>> Currently in my life I am not friends, or even associated with anyone, who
>> acts in such ways at all.
>>
>> THE SAFE SPACE POLICY WAS CLEARLY VIOLATED AS WELL!!!
>>
>> Thank you Robb once again stepping up, and your support.
>> (even writing this is still eating at the back of my head)
>>
>> Robert Albert Young Chu
>> "Radiant Ambition Yields Change."
>> Call or Text :415-724-0425 <(415)%20724-0425>
>> Email: robert.chu01 at gmail.com
>>
>> On Sat, Mar 10, 2018 at 12:38 PM, robb <sf99er at gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>>> if either party wishes for someone to help mediate this matter, i am
>>> available
>>>
>>> On Fri, Mar 9, 2018 at 4:09 PM, Steve Leach <stevenaleach at gmail.com>
>>> wrote:
>>>
>>>> To the group as a whole, I apologizing for causing Robert stress, I did
>>>> yell at him outside the Omni, though only with the intent of re-expressing
>>>> something that I had expressed the previous day in a more clear and
>>>> somewhat comedic manner. It seemed that perhaps with his high energy level,
>>>> my normal tone the previous day had not registered because I hadn't
>>>> bothered to sound upset. So today I intentionally let him know that I was
>>>> upset. Now - the issue at hand is something I set myself up for: most
>>>> nights, especially when it is raining, I have made it a habit of leaving my
>>>> laptop in a basket under a table at the front. There's no pressing reason
>>>> to leave it there - my little abode is waterproof and lockable, but not
>>>> while I am asleep, and the unlikely scenario of someone opening the door
>>>> while I'm unconscious and managing to walk off with my irreplaceable gear
>>>> means I've felt safer leaving it semi-secured inside the building rather
>>>> than with me at night. Two days in a row, however, I found the basket with
>>>> my laptop bag sitting forlorn and alone in the middle of the floor in the
>>>> general 'donataions/hack-this' zone where I couldn't blame anyone if they
>>>> would have come before me and adopted it. I grumbled good naturedly at
>>>> Robert yesterday, just to point out the situation that resulted when the
>>>> table went away and suggested he should have taken the other table of the
>>>> pair -- or move the basket under the remaining table instead.  Today, I
>>>> found the same scenario repeated and decided to actually show that I was
>>>> upset. If this apparently frightened or caused stress to Robert, I'm sorry
>>>> - that was neither my intention nor at all expected. I just chose to be a
>>>> little more theatrical and high energy in communicating with a boisterous
>>>> high energy individual who had disregarded my previous attempts at
>>>> communication. That he apparently mistook this as threatening is
>>>> unfortunate and unexpected - again, I was just trying to more match his
>>>> normal energy level and boisterousness since my more flat and
>>>> matter-of-fact communication previously had not worked. Again, sorry to all
>>>> for causing any unneeded chaos, and in the future I will avoid the problem
>>>> by simply keeping my laptop with me at night and therefore not having to
>>>> worry about it.
>>>>
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>>>
>>>
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>>> then you win*.
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