Also if people think I am being to dramatic when I state "bullying", here
is an excerpt from the Bullying page of Wikipedia
"Bullying can be defined in many different ways. The United Kingdom of
Great Britain and Northern Ireland
<https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_Kingdom> has no legal definition of
bullying,[6] <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying#cite_note-6> while
some states in the United States
<https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States> have laws against it.[7]
<https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying#cite_note-7> Bullying is divided
into four basic types of abuse – emotional
<https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_abuse> (sometimes called
relational), verbal <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Verbal_abuse>, physical
<https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Physical_abuse>, and cyber.[8]
<https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying#cite_note-8> It typically involves
subtle methods of coercion, such as intimidation.
-
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bullying
HIs actions reflected emotional abuse and verbal abuse, used to try to
intimidate me.
I also think it is bullying because he thought I might be to scared or
(dominated over) to do something about it, either that or I am not entirely
sure if he is aware of his own actions.
I stand against bullying, stand up for people being bullied, and choose not
to be a victim of bullying.
I don't have any friends or associates in my life that are bullies, or
treat me in a disrespectful way. Which is why I really don't even feel
comfortable mediating this with him at the current time.
Thank you for reading
Rayc
Robert Albert Young Chu
"Radiant Ambition Yields Change."
Call or Text :415-724-0425
Email: robert.chu01(a)gmail.com
On Mon, Mar 12, 2018 at 11:28 AM, Robert Chu <robert.chu01(a)gmail.com> wrote:
Hello Robb, thank you for your volunteering to do so.
After reflecting off
of this for three days. I am still a bit shaken over the incident, and
don't think I even wish to mediate currently, my hands were truly shaking
for about two hours after his barrage of verbal assaults toward me. I don't
really even feel comfortable talking through a mediator with him as well at
the current time.
He tried bullying me to force me to feel sorry for him, for something in
which I clearly had done no wrong. He got pissed that I moved "his table",
because it had his laptop bag attached to it. "THERE IS NO PERSONAL STORAGE
AT SUDOROOM", if he didn't violate this, then this would not have
transpired."
Then I told him how I felt, not to talk to me and was insulted. (assertion
of dominance, again).
IMHO through his actions, he straight up bullied me and I defended myself
by contacting another Sudoroom member for support and advice on the matter
(who lucky enough was able to pick up during working business hours). I
felt like I was being whipped mentally everytime he would yell over me
yelling "F**K You" multiple times." And lying about owning a table.
I don't tolerate people like that and don't engage with them at all.
Currently in my life I am not friends, or even associated with anyone, who
acts in such ways at all.
THE SAFE SPACE POLICY WAS CLEARLY VIOLATED AS WELL!!!
Thank you Robb once again stepping up, and your support.
(even writing this is still eating at the back of my head)
Robert Albert Young Chu
"Radiant Ambition Yields Change."
Call or Text :415-724-0425 <(415)%20724-0425>
Email: robert.chu01(a)gmail.com
On Sat, Mar 10, 2018 at 12:38 PM, robb <sf99er(a)gmail.com> wrote:
if either party wishes for someone to help
mediate this matter, i am
available
On Fri, Mar 9, 2018 at 4:09 PM, Steve Leach <stevenaleach(a)gmail.com>
wrote:
To the group as a whole, I apologizing for
causing Robert stress, I did
yell at him outside the Omni, though only with the intent of re-expressing
something that I had expressed the previous day in a more clear and
somewhat comedic manner. It seemed that perhaps with his high energy level,
my normal tone the previous day had not registered because I hadn't
bothered to sound upset. So today I intentionally let him know that I was
upset. Now - the issue at hand is something I set myself up for: most
nights, especially when it is raining, I have made it a habit of leaving my
laptop in a basket under a table at the front. There's no pressing reason
to leave it there - my little abode is waterproof and lockable, but not
while I am asleep, and the unlikely scenario of someone opening the door
while I'm unconscious and managing to walk off with my irreplaceable gear
means I've felt safer leaving it semi-secured inside the building rather
than with me at night. Two days in a row, however, I found the basket with
my laptop bag sitting forlorn and alone in the middle of the floor in the
general 'donataions/hack-this' zone where I couldn't blame anyone if they
would have come before me and adopted it. I grumbled good naturedly at
Robert yesterday, just to point out the situation that resulted when the
table went away and suggested he should have taken the other table of the
pair -- or move the basket under the remaining table instead. Today, I
found the same scenario repeated and decided to actually show that I was
upset. If this apparently frightened or caused stress to Robert, I'm sorry
- that was neither my intention nor at all expected. I just chose to be a
little more theatrical and high energy in communicating with a boisterous
high energy individual who had disregarded my previous attempts at
communication. That he apparently mistook this as threatening is
unfortunate and unexpected - again, I was just trying to more match his
normal energy level and boisterousness since my more flat and
matter-of-fact communication previously had not worked. Again, sorry to all
for causing any unneeded chaos, and in the future I will avoid the problem
by simply keeping my laptop with me at night and therefore not having to
worry about it.
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