Look a little deeper before you call what I wrote "garden-variety
victim blaming."
This is victim blaming: "Women should just be more confident and
report their problems sooner."
What I wrote was defining the parameters of the social problem.
I have no problem defining my thick skin and confidence as privilege.
There's nothing about being underconfident that says to me, "well,
they should just snap out of it."
--Naomi
On Sat, Mar 23, 2013 at 9:17 PM, netdiva <netdiva(a)sonic.net> wrote:
I think while its apparent that a discussion on issues
of privilege, who is
sheltered from what types of harm by existing social structures, and related
topics are beyond the reach of this discussion, some of the statements i'm
seeing in this sound like garden variety victim blaming. If that many people
had been that overwhelmed by him, there wouldnt be criminal charges on
record.
On 3/23/2013 8:42 PM, Naomi Most wrote:
Yeah... I'm going to chime in here to perhaps add some perspective as
to why it did take so long.
Shawn seemed like a pretty decent guy. I thought he was a little
skeezy (he was always heaping more attention on the ladies at
Noisebridge than was warranted by normal dictates of conversation /
situation) ...
...but I just figured "slut", not
multiple-misdemeanors-warrant-for-his-arrest-etc.
And I'm (probably) a lot more socially aware than most hackers. I'm
also pretty fearless for someone of my gender.
What that means is that someone like Shawn instinctively goes after
women full of fear and self-doubt, who don't see his manipulation
coming.
So while people like me, who interacted with Shawn on a very regular
basis (he was there almost every afternoon I happened to be there),
figured, "hm okay, nice enough guy, here a lot, whatever..." he was
able to throw down some major bullshit in other social territories.
When you've got victims being fearful and unconfident people in the
first place, it's extremely unlikely they will come forward about
whatever happened to them.
And in this case, the victims all (reportedly) said, when they were
approached about his actions, "I thought I was the only one!" The
subtext of a declaration like that is, "I thought there was something
wrong with me, so I didn't want to tell anyone."
...
I hope that helps.
The huge question Noisebridge is presently dancing around right now
is, how many of our current cultural disturbances are based on
Noisebridge being broken, and how many are basically inevitable
outgrowths of NB having grown to 10 x Dunbar's Number in community
size?
My money's on situations like Shawn L. coming up again, and not
because NB is broken, but because these are the problems of our time.
The positive side of that is, maybe, despite these being hard problems
that nobody has yet been able to solve, hackerspaces can figure this
out. And then we'd win Civilization!
--Naomi
On Sat, Mar 23, 2013 at 7:18 PM, rachel lyra hospodar
<rachelyra(a)gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Feel free to follow through on the ideas you have posted here and report
> back to the group.
>
> If you believe that people acting on their own agency haven't gone far
> enough it would be more productive (and considerate of mitigating
> factors,
> such as the social shitstorms heaped on women who pursue harassment
> remediation within the tech community) to go for what you see as the next
> step, rather than criticizing the tactics chosen.
>
> I disagree with some of what you have stated (re permanent demonization
> of
> bad actors) but you are welcome to that opinion.
>
> R.
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