johnny has already been informed of his being asked to leave & should
contact the mediation <https://omnicommons.org/lists/listinfo/mediation>
list, which is *not* a publicly archived list, if he wishes to do so.
On Wed, Jul 20, 2016 at 4:28 PM, Sera Sigma <sera.sigma(a)gmail.com> wrote:
Email lists are terrible for resolving anything. Much
of the conversation
had on this thread was already covered in person yesterday, so Johnny's
accusation that the individuals present at last week's sudo meeting haven't
"even spoke up" is false.
Some facts:
* This is not a housing conflict, this is an alleged assault/abuse
incident.
* There is a restraining order against Johnny obtained by Leslie.
* When faced with being served with that order, Johnny fled the scene
(yesterday at sudo).
* Previous mediation for a different incident failed in the eyes of at
least one party.
* Legal recourse was sought by both parties: Johnny evicted Leslie, Leslie
obtained a restraining order against Johnny. As with many conflicts, these
legal actions appear to be regarding different issues.
Undeniable power dynamics that affect the situation:
* Johnny identifies as male, Leslie as female
* Johnny was the landlord, Leslie the tenant
Current status:
* Leslie has agreed to mediation.
* Johnny agreed to mediation in person yesterday to me, but has
subsequently backed out of this agreement.
As we are having a sudo get together tonight, I propose we discuss this
in person. Sudo members who think it is important to have a space that is
both just and safe for all, drop by and we can pursue this further.
Johnny, I prefer real human interaction to process, which why I thought we
had made some progress yesterday (before you fled anyway). Based on the
content of your last email, and in particular your line "may the OMNI
become the ONLY space she feels safe", I ask that you not be present
tonight.
I do hope that you change your mind and agree to mediation. I would
volunteer if necessary. I genuinely empathize with your feeling of being
oppressed by legal and other systems. This situation obviously has multiple
facets and we are all faced with the human condition of bringing our past
pain to every new interaction. I wish you the luck to find your best
possible self.
-Sigma
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