[sudo-discuss] Re: [omni-consensus] Safe space bans on both Ian and Trevor

Thank you, Toan, for all the immense labor you do (both physical and emotional) <3 Any updates on the situation with Ian? (anyone) -Jenny On 4/7/24 01:03, Toan Nguyen via sudo-discuss wrote: > Hey everyone, > > Earlier today I've met with several Omni volunteers and touched on > this topic. > After meeting with volunteers I initiated a conversation with Trevor. > Our chat was mutual and it helped us understand the situation more. > > *I have requested to Trevor that he temporarily stay away from Omni > and take that time to process and reflect on his reaction for > assaulting Ian.* > *Trevor was receptive to leave and stay away from Omni for a one week > period begining today.* > *(April 6 - April 13)* > > For clarity - this is a modified safer space ban and I did not > include any mediations nor did I felt the need to escort him out of Omni. > This ban was initiated as an individual Omni volunteer and not on > behalf of East Bay Food Not Bombs. > > Thanks, > Toan > > On Mon, Apr 1, 2024, 10:25 PM Yardena Cohen &lt;yardenack(a)gmail.com&gt; wrote: > > I am still shaken, but after some reflection I want to say this: > > I've felt that Ian was harassing, abusing, gaslighting and > boundary pushing people at omni for a long time, but was > reluctant to say or do anything about it because I didn't feel > like it would be taken seriously. Then last night he yelled some > absolutely horrible violent and sexualized threats, making the > entire building very unsafe. > > In his few months at omni, Trevor never witnessed any safe space > bans happen, but DID witness attempts to use the safe space > policy end in failure. From his perspective, it was reasonable to > believe that nobody at omni actually took safe space seriously, > the policy was a toothless joke, and the only way to address the > intense levels of harm coming from Ian was to slap him in the face. > > Honestly, Trevor made the wrong decision to do this, but his > heart was in the right place. Any restorative justice process > needs to show great compassion. > > After thinking it over, I want to rescind my call for a safe > space ban on Trevor. I made a rash call in the heat of the > moment. I think our community failed him, and many others, by > allowing Ian to remain for so long. I think a ban on Trevor would > be disproportionate and needlessly punitive. I encourage the > community to figure out a way to welcome him back asap. > > This is bigger than me and I'm not the boss of omni. I don't > think it should be my decision. But I just wanted to say how I'm > feeling now. > > On Mon, Apr 1, 2024 at 1:18 PM Yardena Cohen > &lt;yardenack(a)gmail.com&gt; wrote: > > I am calling for safe space bans on Ian and Trevor. > > Trevor physically assaulted Ian, and then Ian called OPD on > Trevor and let them into Omni. I think both of these things > were dangerous escalations and violations of our community > agreements. I also don't feel they were equivalently > dangerous, but they both meet the threshold for at least > temporary bans on both people while we figure out what repair > and justice look like. > > Trevor is not in the building, but Ian still is. I'm > currently waiting outside for Ian to collect his things. > After he leaves, I will accompany Trevor to collect his > things also. > > _______________________________________________ > consensus mailing list > consensus(a)lists.omnicommons.org > https://omnicommons.org/lists/listinfo/consensus > > > _______________________________________________ > sudo-discuss mailing list --sudo-discuss(a)sudoroom.org > To unsubscribe send an email tosudo-discuss-leave(a)sudoroom.org > More options athttps://sudoroom.org/lists/postorius/lists/sudo-discuss.sudoroom.org/